You are a complex human, holding infinite intersecting identities– some more important to you than others. I am a culture-affirming therapist, and when I say “culture” it isn’t just code for saying race. Culture is the background fabric from which you learned to engage with the world, and it’s more than any one piece of your identity. Therapy offers the opportunity to step out of the role you feel you’ve been performing and step into the process of self-exploration. By developing personal meanings and connections to the identities you hold and to the ways you look to grow, you gain a sense of known and cohesive self.
In relationship counseling, I help partners hold each other’s stories–to intimately understand the significance of each other’s histories–so they can grow together, deepen their connection, and foster trusting support. I have found that this approach has been especially helpfully for people in interracial relationships, for people who come from differing socioeconomic backgrounds, and for people who feel there are large differences in emotional intelligence or comfort with emotions between partners.